Few people will make it through life without having at least one notably unpleasant, romantic encounter. All couples are not guaranteed to mesh well, but this rarely stops different forms of attraction from developing. In many instances, people can be most attracted to the very individuals who are worst for their lives.
The hardest part of leaving a bad relationship is recognizing the negativity that it creates and determining that this much worse than the pain of separation. Even when people are able to recognize that their partners are not beneficial to their mental, emotional and spiritual well-being, they can still remain very emotionally attached. Physical attraction and even potentially psychic or other connections that are hard to define will often remain.
Emotions are also overwhelming during the leaving process. Love and feelings that can deceptively masquerade as love will often prevent people from leaving bad relationships, even when leaving is clearly best. Thus, it is imperative for people to understand and accept that there are both true emotions and emotions that can be deceiving. What might feel like love today, will likely seem closer to infatuation as the years pass.
It is also a good idea to to review your partner’s redeeming qualities when leaving becomes too hard to do. It is important to discern the difference between qualities that a person actually possesses and qualities that he or she could possess if the right personal improvements were made. Ultimately, the goal of these efforts is to realize that you may be in love with the idea of what your partner could be, rather than the person your partner really is.
You should also look for things that define your happiness outside of the relationship. It is unhealthy to have your sense of joy utterly reliant upon your romantic relationships. Because of this, you should start looking for hobbies that you enjoy, self-improvements you want to make and contributions that you are ready to immerse yourself in. This will help you to develop a better sense of self and will take some of your attention away from the natural grieving process.
Energy cording is also something that you should research. This is the idea that some couples are naturally connected to one another through invisible but nonetheless, wholly existent ties. Assessing the nature of your union will help you to better learn solid and irrefutable reasons for cutting these ties or for leaving them intact and simply redefining the nature of your relationship instead.