Youth Guide

Leadership & wellness for all youth

Do You Really Need to Come Out At Work?

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Your first job is a pretty nervous time whether you’re gay or straight, but the truth is that it’s a different world when you’re entering it as a young gay adult. You feel like everyone knows that you’re gay and just own talk about it, or you might feel that your sexual orientation will keep you from getting promoted at work. So we wanted to cover the big question that you’re probably wondering, and give you a few more pieces of advice about the working world as a gay person.

First and foremost, if you’re worried about your workplace environment, you will need to find someone that you trust to talk about it. In the corporate world, this is almost certainly an HR person. You have to make sure that you know the corporate culture as it stands, rather than what you think the corporate culture should indeed stand for. This might get a little bit tricky but it doesn’t have to be that way.

Worried about coming out to HR? Don’t — the role of human resources is to understand personnel management, and you are probably not the first gay person that the HR professional has encountered. If they are older than you and have been at the company longer, they can easily become a mentor to you as you try to navigate through the twists and turns of the corporate jungle.

As far as your boss and working team go, there’s no reason to tell them that you’re gay if you can tell that they would have a problem. You have to remember that it’s all about your comfort and your ability to produce good work for the company. Your manager will not be judging you as a gay person, they’re going to be judging you as an asset of the company, and scoring you accordingly. If you are a graphic designer and you put out good work that makes the company money, then that’s what they’re going to look at you about. On the other hand, if you are so caught up in the gossip mill about your sexual orientation that you don’t think about anything else, you might find that people really are going to have problems with you at work. That’s not a good thing and it can easily have you out of work very quickly!

The biggest takeaway here is that you need to focus on your professional goals. Where do you want to be in six months? A year? Five years? Think about the people in the company that can really help you reach those goals.

If there are issues at work, you’re going to want to make sure that you reach out to people that can get the problem stopped. No one in the world has the right to bully you, so don’t forget that!

The Future Looks Bright for Gay Teens!

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If you’re just coming out and you feel like you’re all alone, this guide is for you. The more we write about issues in the gay teen community, the more we realize that there are just some classic themes that need to be expanded. You see, the future really does look bright for gay teens. However, when you’re caked in the negativity of others, you might not always be able to see it.

Allow us to make things shine a little clearer for you. The road to being comfortable in your own skin starts with realizing that other people are the ones that have the problem, not you. You might run into people that have to let you know how much you disapprove of their lives. You might disapprove of a lot of things, but we doubt that you’re just itching to warn everyone about the “dangers” of their lifestyle, are you? Probably not.

So what you need to do from here is to make sure that you look at the things that you want. If you want a job that pays well and offers benefits that are gay friendly, you can find that.

If you want to find gay friendly travel destinations, you can definitely do that. It’s just a matter of figuring out what you want. When you first come out, it’s a good idea to come out to someone that can help you as you make all of these decisions.

This is a very hard time in your life, but it is one that you will eventually get through. Many people that came out when they were teenagers have found that the people that had the biggest problem with them have realized that life is just too short to hate someone so much to the point where you don’t speak to them. It’s better to embrace the person they are and just deal with the other parts that might not be as “tolerable”.

If we didn’t stress it enough, let us say it again – there is nothing wrong with coming out as a gay teenager. With the rise of the Internet, you have more and more options of getting out there to meet people that are also in the same boat as you. Once you find other gay teens, you’ll realize just how common this all really is!

Don’t just stay online. Don’t just read about all of the fun that other gay teens are having. Don’t just sit on Facebook and think about what you could do if you just could meet someone that thought like you, at least a little bit.

Go out there and take chances. You only get one chance at life and if you wait till the end of your days to really experience love and happiness, you’ll regret it. There are plenty of opportunities for gay teenagers and young adults — you just have to get out there and check things out for yourself. With only one life to live, what are you waiting for? Start today!

Is Gaming Hurting Youth Finance?

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There are many things that gaming has been associated to over the years, both in a positive light and in a negative light, and in recent years in particular gaming has been picked up in a huge way by a much wider audience, and particularly for those who haven’t been all that interested in gaming before too. At the same time, there has been a shift in gaming during this same period of time, and it is a change that many have started to deem as a huge problem, and something that has been pushing for change for quite some time. [Read more…]

Handling Your Finances As a Gay Teenager

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Going to college or even just going out into the real world can be scary for any teenager, but there are other issues at stake when you are a gay teen. Let’s face it — people are indeed going to look at you differently. You will need to make sure that you really go out of your way to ensure that you take care of things in a way that makes sense for your life and no one else’s. You don’t want to find that you can’t get into the apartment that you want or even the job you want because you don’t have money.

Thinking about your finances is something that matters because no one else will do it for you. In fact, a lot of people will assume that they can take advantage of you if you don’t have a specific plan — don’t give into this at all!

If you want to make sure that you are financially stable to the best of your ability, you’ll need to make sure that you build a plan that’s going to help you get that done. The last thing that you want to do is find that you have no plan and you don’t know of anyone that can actually. help you do that.

Here’s what you need to know.

If you’re going to be with someone, you should realize that they have no legal right to your money. Even if they say that they want to be with you and become domestic partners, that doesn’t mean that your money is suddenly their money. This is something that happens sometimes in the gay community, but it doesn’t have to happen to you.

If you are going to live with someone, you need to make sure that all of your expectations and guidelines are spelled out. If you try to just stick to the honor system, you will eventually find someone that will hurt you. That’s not a good thing at all, and you need to make sure that you focus on the bigger picture. No one is going to fight harder for you than, well, YOU!

When you don’t have any credit but you have a job, you shouldn’t be surprised to find that you will indeed find many credit offers circling around you. That’s not to say that they aren’t a good thing to check out. In case of an emergency, credit is a decent source to tap. It’s obviously not the best source to tap but it can be a good hedge in a hurry. It’s often better than payday loans, because the interest rate is a lot lower.

So, where do you go from here? Get a pen and paper and really write out the things that you want. Do you want a new car? Do you want a house? When do you want these things? The more detailed that you are, the more likely it is that you’re going to get the things that you want. There’s no reason in the world to think that you have to go without the things that matter to you — good luck out there and build the financial plan that meets YOUR needs!

A Gay Retreat Makes a Great Vacation Every Time!

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Are you thinking about trying to travel anytime soon? You might have some vacation time coming up, and being around your regular circle of friends just might not be very appealing. You just have to figure out where to go in order to really have a good time.

When you’re a young gay teen, you might feel that your options for meeting like minded people are very limited. However, the truth is that you just need to make sure that you’re keeping your options open rather than feeling like it’s impossible to get things done. That’s just going to make you frustrated, and who really wants to be frustrated like that? You just need to figure out what you want to do, how you want to do it, and where you want to go. This guide covers those things for you quite well.

First and foremost, you should think about going to a gay retreat, or another themed vacation that’s aimed at meeting other gay people roughly your age. Some might recommend a vacation in the Caribbean for a week or two. There are small cruises that you can take you to neighboring islands where you can enjoy an afternoon of peace and relaxation. If you like to be surrounded by people, there are nightclubs that stay open late and delectable five star restaurants that you can dine at. If you want to meet older adults and you’re already at the age of majority, then that’s not a problem — but tread carefully! You’re going through a very different time of your life than someone that’s older, and you need to make sure that you’re giving yourself time to properly heal and tend to your own life before you take that step.

Still, there are plenty of meetup groups that also plan out vacations. If you’re already meeting up regularly with other gay youth, you might just want to plan a vacation together. It’s going to make it easier to bond because you’re not going to have to try to fight the stress and strain of everyday life.

If you’re going to coordinate the travel details, you need to put out different places for the other people to vote on. If you just try to pick a location, you’re going to find people that feel like you’re trampling on their feelings and right to voice their option. Once you get these details out of the way you’ll be able to go ahead and start looking at group accommodations.

If everyone is at least 18, this makes the trip planning a lot easier. Otherwise you’ll have to get guardians involved and it’s a lot of hard planning that way. But once you’re an adult the world is pretty much open to you unless you’re going somewhere as someone 18 and they want someone at least 21 years of age. But there are ways to get things done, you just need to figure out all of your options.

The best thing that you can do is make sure that you look at all of your hard costs to really ensure that you’ve got the costs calculated properly. If someone doesn’t give you the money for the trip, you will want to be able to cancel their spot on the vacation list. Otherwise you’ll end up having to pay for someone that’s not even coming on the trip.

What else can you do from here? Well, you have other options too — group transportation rates don’t have to be expensive and you might want to have transportation scheduled ahead of time depending on where you go.

From here, the rest is up to you. There’s nothing that says that you just have to lay around on the beach or anything. Figure out what the group wants to do as a whole and see if you can set things up.

These tips are geared for people that want to take charge, but if that’s not you …don’t sweat it! You can always delegate the trip planning to someone else and just encourage them with these tips. It’s completely up to you!