Youth Guide

Leadership & wellness for all youth

Bringing Home Your Gay Partner To Your Parents Without Stress

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Are you happily in a relationship and you really want to make sure that you’re going to be able to have the best time possible? No problem! There are plenty of gay couples that enjoy deep and meaningful relationships, just like there are many single people that enjoy deep and meaningful relationships. But what about when you want to reach out and talk to your parents about all of this? You might even want to bring your new gay partner home to meet your parents if things are sufficiently serious enough.

Instead of panicking and wondering and even worrying, you will need to make sure that you can do whatever it is that you need to do in order to get things off the ground. That’s really the only way that you’re going to have a good thing, when you think about it. It would be a lot smarter to have the peace of mind that comes from knowing deep down that you can truly share every facet of your life with your parents.

However, the last thing that you want to do is just surprise them with it. It’s time to go through a few steps in order to get what you’re looking for.

First and foremost, you will want to make sure that you go ahead and have the conversation first. Just showing up with your gay partner isn’t going to do you any favors. Your family may feel like you’re trying to force your new lifestyle on them. If you haven’t come out yet to them, that’s the first thing you need to do. You also want to make it clear that this person that you’re with is someone that you’re pretty serious about, and you want your family to share in your happiness.

Bringing them over doesn’t have to be a formal thing — you don’t have to pull out all of the stops. In fact, it’s better for your partner to actually see your family relaxed and comfortable. They’re going to be nervous because you have never brought anyone of the same sex home as a partner, but that’s okay. The nervousness will fade once they see how you and your partner interact.

You want to make sure that you respect the boundaries of your family. For the first meeting, keep things the same way you would if you were bringing home a member of the opposite sex home. Do your parents want to see you making out with someone? No. Do they want to see that you’re happy, safe, and ready to take on life with someone? Absolutely.

And relationships do ebb and flow — your partner might not be ready to introduce you to their parents, or come over your house to meet your family. This is obviously a step that you’ll want to take when you’re really interested in someone. That’s the best way to go about it, if you ask us!

Gay Meetups For Teens – The Perfect Way to Connect!

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Now that you’ve accepted the fact that being gay is part of the life you want to lead, you will need to find kindred spirits. The worst thing that you can do is think that there’s no on out there that’s just like you. Even though people still do have a problem with GLBT people, their personal issues aren’t your personal issues. As long as you love yourself, what more do you honestly need? You just need to be willing to push forward and do the things that you know matter to you — the rest will fall into place, we promise!

So let’s talk about a subject that’s near and dear to our hearts: the gay meetup. Some people dismiss it and say that people don’t need specific little meetups in order to feel connected. We disagree — it’s very important to feel like you’re in a safe and secure environment where you can just be yourself. And let’s face it — being gay is a deep part of your lifestyle. So you will definitely want to make sure that you’re going to be able to enjoy life to the fullest.

Depending on where you live, there are actually a lot more gay meetups than you think. This is because people really do want to find others that have the same interests. Even if you’re not looking for a relationship, there’s never a bad time to make new gay friends. You’ll need them when it’s really time to get out of your comfort zone and take life to the next level. Gay networking is a powerful tool for your career as well. You don’t want to find that you haven’t been able to really connect with people as much as you would like. That just wouldn’t be right!

So from here, how do you actually find those meetups? Well, if you’re already reading things online you’ll actually find that the Internet is a great source to find out where people are hanging out that share the same lifestyle as you.

That’s what this is, honestly — it’s a lifestyle that’s designed for maximum benefit on your part. The more work that you can do in terms of getting to know people, the happier you will feel.

We know what it’s like to feel like you don’t have a single kindred soul in the entire world. That’s why we’re pushing the gay meetup thing so much — you really do need to make that connection.

Take care of yourself first, and everything else will flow around you!

Do You Really Have To Admit You’re Gay to Your Doctor

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As you begin accepting the fact that gay life is part of YOUR life, there are a lot of different questions that come up. However one of the top questions that you might be wondering right now is simple: who needs to know? If you’re not comfortable with coming out to everyone, that’s fine. In time, you’ll be more comfortable. You can come out and stand proud as a gay teen. But there are some people that you will need to come out to first, in order to protect your health.

One of the top people that you need to talk with before anyone else would definitely have to be a doctor. Your doctor will need to know about your sexual orientation for many reasons. Let’s cover a few of those reasons.

The biggest thing that you have to realize is that your doctor cannot give you proper health care if they don’t know anything about your lifestyle. The advice that they give someone that isn’t gay may be different than what they give for you. They may be interested in running more tests if you’re sexually active, because STDs can and still do happen in the gay community. You want to always make sure that you’re protected when you engage in sexual activity.

The doctor does need to know, and they also need to know how many partners you’ve had in the past, as well as any partner or partners that you’re having right now. These aren’t questions that are meant to embarrass you in any way shape or form.

You have to think about it from their perspective. The doctor has a job to do, and that job is to protect your health. To be honest, you are probably not the only gay teen that they know about.

If you haven’t come out to your parents, you don’t have to worry about the doctor telling your parents that you’re gay. As long as you are engaging in sexual activity with people your own age (to avoid any type of conflict with someone that is an adult when you’re not), you will not have to worry about your privacy being violated.

What is said between you and your doctor is actually protected, and your doctor can get in trouble for saying anything to anyone — including your parents. If it’s an issue, you may want to discuss this with your doctor as well. They will go out of their way to make sure that your parents don’t harm you just because they find out something different about you.

Everyone tends to come out in their own time. But coming out to your doctor is something that you need to do for your health — nothing more and nothing less than that!

Are You Ready to Come Out as a Gay Teen

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Coming out is a pretty tricky thing, especially when you are a gay teenager. It might be easy for some that have a good support structure, but the experience is never the same across the board. If you really want to make sure that you are building the support network that truly works for you, you’re going to have to eventually “come out” to the people that you trust.

Assembling people that love you is pretty easy, but the situation gets complicated when you start realizing how many people are at odds with the GLBT community. Suddenly your standing with certain people in your life may change, and that can be a really sad experience. Instead of feeling like you have to hold this awful secret (which isn’t awful, by the way), you can let it out and step into the life that you were always meant to have.

The first thing you need to do is try to find someone that is already “out”. There are meetups for gay teens where you can connect. Even if you’re not trying to get into a new gay relationship, you should still consider going to these meetups. They really are a wonderful way to connect with people that have a common lifestyle thread with you. You will be able to find someone that you can come out to.

Just having one person know that you are gay can help ease any type of tension that you have on your mind. The other good part about starting slow is that you can get help on how to present the information to your family.

It’s very common for the families of gay teenagers to be a little surprised. They might feel like you are in the wrong to come out with such a big secret, but the truth is that you cannot absorb their feelings — no matter how tempted you are. They might feel that it’s a fad that you’re going through, but that might not be the case at all. Only you can determine if this is something that you’re going to explore for a long time, or something that you’ll eventually grow out of.

But right now, in the present moment, you really need to understand that there is nothing wrong with you. You are wonderful just the way you are, and if people cannot accept you in your new gay life, then they really aren’t quite the people that you thought they would be.

Putting these tips into practice might be difficult, but don’t worry — we’re just getting started on helping you out! Check back regularly for plenty of articles!

Dealing with Bullies as a Gay Teen

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In a perfect world, everyone would just accept everyone as they are without all of the commentary and judgment, but it really doesn’t work that way. When you start coming out as a gay teen, there’s one thing that you’re going to have to face head-on, and that’s bullying. You don’t want anyone to bully you, but you also don’t want to run away from bullies. It only makes them feel like you’re going to just take anything that they dish out. You will need to stand up for yourself and be ready to defend yourself if it comes down to it.

Bullies tend to question and challenge anything that they don’t feel comfortable with. You have to remember that it’s really not about you at all. It’s really just about the insecurity that they feel. Many bullies have other things to deal with that they might not be able to visibly show. If you’re growing up in an unstable home, you might reach for power any way that you can get. It’s not fair and it’s certainly not right, but many bullies are bullies because they too are hurting. Having a little compassion for the people picking on you might be hard, but it will help you understand where they’re coming from and possibly why they’re giving you such a hard time.

Just because you understand where a bully is coming from doesn’t mean that you have to necessarily be friend with them. You should never tolerate bullying in any form. If people are giving you a hard time because they know that you’re gay, then you need to get someone else involved, like a teacher or another school official.

That’s what they’re there for. You might feel like you shouldn’t bring it up, because then you’re going to be dealing with the possibility that the teacher is against gays as well. The truth is that whatever they feel personally doesn’t matter. As long as you attend the same school as everyone else, you will need to make sure that you focus on the bigger picture.

Bullying can easily escalate into violence, so it’s important to make sure that you are being taken seriously. If you have to go all the way up to the school board, so be it — there are channels for that.

What about when the school itself is the ones that aren’t supporting you? That’s when you get the outside media involved. There are always local community groups that work with gay teens and bullying problems. Bullying is a problem that affects everyone, but gay teens are especially at risk because many people have an issue with gay life in general.

What you need to do is maintain your own self confidence. There are so many different feelings going on right now, especially as you come out. If you have people that already love you and support you as a gay teen, hold onto them! This is going to be a very hard time for you but as long as you have your friends and family around you, there’s nothing that you can’t move past eventually! Good luck out there!