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How to Attract Your first Same-Sex Relationship

By Webmaster

Why is this article titled with “relationship” rather than partner? Because it’s more than just the person. When you decide that you want to enter a relationship with a member of the same sex, you’re stepping onto a battlefield. We wish that it weren’t that way, but take it from us — it is a battlefield, with plenty of opponents. There will be a lot of eyes on you, whether you like it or not. And you can get sucked into a national movement going on without really wanting to be involved. We know that you’d rather just enjoy the peace that straight couples get, but that won’t be happening for a long time. People are very worried about the LGBT scene and feel that it contributes to a “moral decay” of their society.

Boring. The truth is that people are sticking their noses where they shouldn’t, and it hinders your ability to have a fulfilling relationship. But “hinders” doesn’t mean “not possible at all”, it just means that there are some obvious challenges to your first “real” relationship.

Same-Sex Relationship

Fight From Where You Are

If you’re going to pursue this, you need to fight from where you are right now, rather than where you think you want to be. So if you’re dreaming about a relationship coming into fruition once you have a job or a house or a nice car…keep dreaming. Love doesn’t work that way at all. You need to think more about how you’re going to take care of yourself, take care of someone else, and work together with them to create a great life. That might mean living in a cramped apartment but being able to curl up and watch your favorite television shows at any time you want. It also might mean living out in a more isolated area but being able to watch the stars come out every night. There are so many little sacrifices that we don’t think about when we’re in love and happy, because we’re committed to making it work.

So fight from where you are instead of dreaming big right from the start. You’ll have plenty of time to dream together with someone great.

It’s the same concept behind going out and finding someone to be with at your current weight instead of dreaming about being smaller or more muscular. If one person doesn’t find you attractive, you can bet that other people are going to find you attractive. You just have to make sure that you’re pushing through all of your options and not giving up for a single instant.

Setting Yourself Up for Success

Go where the people are. If you have LGBT meetups, that’s even better. Getting to know someone in a space that’s safe is always the best way forward. Don’t settle for the first person that says hello! Not everyone in our community wants the same things, and you may be pressured into doing things that you don’t want to do. It is never a crime to say no and back away. Don’t even let anyone make you feel like you have to “put out” or “give it up” in order to earn their affection. Those are the type of people that will leave you high and dry when things get rough.

You have to set yourself up for success and push forward to a better day, on every level. Cultivating more positive energy will make you much more appealing to potential partners. Everyone likes the person that always has a joke or something witty to say. If you aren’t that person right now, don’t worry. The more you dig into the current trends of the day, news, and even literature, the more interesting you’ll sound. Dig into the history of a region, the food of a culture, and the way people live their lives. Get interested in the world around you, because the last thing any of us need are more entitled people. Volunteer and give your time to causes that you stand for.

Make Moves That Work

The fun part of socializing is that you get to make people feel good, but the downside is that sometimes you feel like youíre playing to an empty house. You’re trying to find someone that resonates with you, and that’s far from an overnight thing. You just need to think about your options in terms of what’s going to work well for you and what isn’t. In other words, if you don’t say anything, how will anyone know anything about you?

Don’t get lost in the details. Go out, have fun, and then go from there. Let someone dazzle you with their personality as much as you dazzle them. Even though you’re looking for a same sex partner, you still deserve to expect the same romantic treatment as straight couples experience. Hold out for someone that truly thinks you’re special, and you’ll be a thousand times happier than someone that settled because the other person was “just there”. Trust us, we know these things!

Filed Under: Gay Teen Tagged With: Same-Sex Relationship

Dealing with Addiction: What Addicts Should Do

By Webmaster

Addiction is a very serious problem in the United States. Right now, millions of people are suffering from an addiction that they are not sure they can overcome. While you might feel trapped, you’re not alone, and you don’t have to remain a drug addict for the rest of your life.

The problem is, if you’re like most addicts, you’re not quite sure where to start. For the most part, quitting cold turkey is simply not an option. In fact, you’ve probably tried and failed at that before.

Knowing that you want to get on the road to recovery is an excellent start. If you’re there, take a moment to recognize that you want to get better. That’s important.

Dealing with Addiction

Keep reading to learn more about how you can begin to get clean and live a sober, productive life. The process may take some time and hard work, but it is well within your reach.

Recognize Your Demons

Trying to recover from drug addiction isn’t something that’s going to beeasy. To begin with, you need to sit down and take the time to realize what you’re really battling. Believe it or not, most addicts simply don’t do this because it’s too painful. [Read more…]

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Careers with an International focus heat up in North America

By Webmaster

Although global business has been an attractive career choice for young people for the past few decades, jobs that support international awareness have trended upwards more recently, providing those that adhere to language and culture study along with specialized training a variety of opportunities throughout Canada and beyond.

international careers

Here are some of the fastest growing international careers and how to get there:

Immigration Consultants:

Canada is one of the top places for people from Commonwealth and former Commonwealth countries to choose to immigrate to. As each typical immigration lawyer or service company requires several people that work on the cases to be qualified as immigration workers, there is a need for qualified immigration consultants that can meet with those wishing to immigrate and handle all of the details of their case. One school in Toronto, The Academy of Learning Toronto, has even created a immigration consultant program that provides all of the training necessary to become a certified immigration consultant, a qualification that can be used worldwide in order to help those interested in immigrating to Canada move their cases forward.

Language and Culture Instructors:

Several years ago, Canada gained a reputation for having the clearest English speakers around. By listening to Canadians, many people that are interested in learning English have been able to improve their English pronunciation faster than they have with other countries that speak English natively. To capitalize on this trend, Canadians that would like to work in Canada or abroad helping people to learn English as a second language or as a foreign language need to finish a bachelor’s degree program, preferably in language or culture. The upside for those that choose to join the industry is that they will be able to travel while earning a decent income, giving them even more opportunity to expand into either higher level language instruction or linguistics. [Read more…]

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3 Ways Caitlin Jenner’s Story Reveals How Much We Have to Do

By Webmaster

Think that the fight for our rights is over just because Caitlin Jenner has a docu-series on TV right now? That couldn’t be any farther from the truth. The reality is that we have to keep speaking up. While we admire Ms. Jenner’s boldness, the truth is that there are still thousands upon thousands of people that are still silently suffering. After all, not everyone has the money to go through facial reconstruction and body shaping to finally look the way on the outside that they feel on the inside. They feel female on the inside, but they can’t express that because surgery costs too much. Hormones are expensive. Things are super difficult for them, and there’s no guarantee that they’ll have the support of their family. Many transgendered teens are still threatened with eviction if their status were discovered by their parents.

Here are three key points that show we have a lot of work to do.

1. Lack of Counseling for Transgendered Teens

Counseling is still a major issue in terms of helping transpeople, especially transgendered teenagers. This is a very hectic and complicated time of life, because many relationships depend on the teen having a positive state of mind. The connections we make as teens can really open doors for us, but if you’re spending all of your time worrying about what others are thinking about you it’s hard to get anything done. [Read more…]

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The Hard Truth About Returning Home For the Holidays as an LGBT Youth

By Webmaster

Growing up is hard for any child, but making the transition from teenager to young adult as an LGBT youth is even harder. The level of discrimination that’s allowed is absolutely ridiculous. Just when you believe that you have things under control, someone else comes in to stereotype and degrade you. But thankfully, things have gotten better for many LGBT people. We’re on TV, in newspapers, represented in the sciences, and just about anywhere else that we want to be. Hollywood has realized that unflattering portrayals of LGBT people aren’t acceptable, and that’s really improved the image of this community tremendously.

Yet there’s one part of life that hasn’t seemed to change all that much, and that would be the families that we moved away from in order to pursue work or school. When you return home for the holidays, you may have found things have changed.

For example, if you have a significant other, they may not be welcome at the house. Before you take the time to book travel accommodations, you need to have a serious talk with your family. They need to meet the people that matter in your life, but you also need to realize that you can’t force them to change. If you encourage them to open their minds a little bit, you’ll go further than condemning them for being homophobes or transphobes. [Read more…]

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